Therapy for Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)+ Polyamory

You deserve a therapist who actually gets it.

If you're practicing ethical non-monogamy — or seriously considering it — you already know how hard it is to find a therapist who won't treat your relationship structure as the problem. Who won't pathologize your desire for non-monogamy, subtly push you toward closing your relationship, or make you spend half the session explaining what ENM even is.

That's not what you'll find here.

I'm Jen Joseph, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and seasoned couples and relationship therapist. I'm ENM-informed, non-judgmental, and personally knowledgeable about ethical non-monogamy. I work with individuals and couples across a wide range of relationship structures — open relationships, swinging, relationship anarchy, solo polyamory, hierarchical and non-hierarchical polyamory, and more — and I meet you where you are, without an agenda about what your relationship should look like.

Who I Work With

Couples considering opening their relationship who want to approach the process thoughtfully — with real conversations about what each person wants, what they're afraid of, and how to build agreements that actually hold.

Couples already practicing ENM who are navigating challenges — a broken agreement, a jealousy spiral that's gotten out of hand, one partner developing unexpected feelings for someone else, or simply a relationship that needs recalibration.

Individuals in ENM relationships who want support navigating the emotional complexity that can come with non-monogamy — managing multiple relationships, communicating needs with partners, processing jealousy or insecurity, or figuring out what kind of relationship structure actually works for them.

Couples at a crossroads where one partner wants to open the relationship and the other isn't sure — or where one partner wants to close a relationship that's been open and the other doesn't. These mixed-agenda situations require care, honesty, and space for both people to genuinely explore what they want.

What We Might Work On Together

• Deciding whether opening your relationship is right for you — and how to have that conversation honestly

• Building ENM agreements that are specific, workable, and genuinely win-win

• Navigating jealousy, insecurity, or unexpected feelings that have come up

• Repairing trust after an agreement was broken

• Communication skills for the particular demands of ENM — including how to advocate for your needs, how to renegotiate agreements as things shift, and how to stay emotionally regulated during hard conversations

• Processing the emotional experience of non-monogamy as an individual — compersion, jealousy, grief, excitement, identity

• Figuring out what kind of relationship structure actually fits your life, values, and emotional landscape

My Approach

ENM relationships require a level of communication, self-awareness, and emotional regulation that most of us simply weren't taught. The couples and individuals who navigate non-monogamy most successfully aren't the ones with the fewest feelings — they're the ones who've developed real skills for talking about those feelings honestly, making and keeping agreements, and staying connected to each other through the complexity.

My work with ENM clients draws on frameworks from PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy), The Developmental Model, ISTDP and my work with teachers, Martha Kauppi and Tammy Nelson.

I'm direct, focused, and genuinely invested in your progress. I'll ask the questions that get to what's actually going on beneath the surface. And I'll do it without judgment about your relationship structure — because that's simply not my job.

For more information on my couples therapy practice, go here.

A Note on What I'm Not

I'm not a therapist who will use sessions to evaluate whether ENM is "healthy" for you, treat non-monogamy as a symptom of something to be fixed, or steer you — however subtly — toward monogamy. Your relationship structure is yours to determine. My job is to help you navigate it with more skill, honesty, and connection.

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