Sex & Relationship Resources: Books, Podcasts + Videos

• Non-violent Communication: Cup of Empathy

It’s Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self by Hilary Jacobs Hendel

• The New Rules of Marriage by Terrence Real

• How to be an Adult in Relationships by David Richo

• We Do by Stan Tatkin

• In Each Other’s Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them by Stan Tatkin

• Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin

• Fierce Intimacy by Terrence Real (Audible only)

• Making Love Real: The Intelligent Couple’s Guide to Lasting Intimacy + Passion by Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Harel

• The Course of Love by Alain de Botton

• Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson

• Podcasts: Relationship Alive!; The Relationship School Podcast

• Alain de Botton, philosopher, teacher and author, speaking about Romantic love. This video offers teaching and inspiration on how to have grown-up, long term intimate partnerships with real, imperfect humans. I highly recommend it.

• After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis Abrahms Spring

• Intimacy After Infidelity: How to Rebuild + Affair-Proof Your Marriage by Steven Solomon + Lorie Teagno

• The New Monogamy by Tammy Nelson

• When You’re the One Who Cheats by Tammy Nelson

• State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

• "This is how to stop your partner from cheating" video with Esther Perel

• The Divorce Remedy by Michelle Weiner Davis

• Collaborative Divorce California

• Collaborative Practice

• Polysecure by Jessica Fern

• Open Deeply by Kate Loree

• Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists and their Clients by Martha Kauppi

• The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola

• Building Open Relationships by Dr. Liz Powell

• More than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Eve Rickert and Franklin Veaux

• Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

• A Happy Life in an Open Relationship by Susan Wenzel

• Rewriting the Rules: An Anti Self-Help Guide to Sex, Love and Relationships by Meg-John Barker

• The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy

• The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy by Lola Phoenix

• Podcasts: Multiamory; Non-Monogamy Help with Lola Phoenix

• Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents by Kara Hoppe and Stan Tatkin

• Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive by Daniel Siegel

• Transforming the Difficult Child by Howard Glasser

• Raising Kids Ok by Dorothy Ellen Babcock

BOOKS

• Coming Together: Embracing your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-term Compatibility by Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Harel

• Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships

• Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire by Cyndi Darnell

• Making Love Real: The Intelligent Couple’s Guide to Lasting Intimacy and Passion by Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Harel

• Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want From Sex— and How to Get It by Marty Klein

• Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives by Ian Kerner

• Rekindling Desire by Barry McCarthy

• Sex Talks: The Fiver Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life

• Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire by Lori Brotto

• Intimacy Educator: Teaching Through Touch by Caffyn Jesse

• Getting the Sex You Want by Tammy Nelson

• Passionate Marriage: Love, Sex and Intimacy with Emotionally Committed Relationships by David Schnarch

• Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out by Jessica Graham

• Sex Without Stress: A Couple’s Guide to Overcoming Disappointment, Avoidance and Pressure by Jessa Zimmerman

• The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin

• Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel

• The Heart of Desire by Stella Resnick

• The Guide to Getting it On by Paul Joannides

• Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men, Women and Couples by Jack Morin

PODCASTS

• Podcast about creating hot foreplay

• Organic Sexuality with Rahi Chun (somatic sex educator)

• The Trouble with Sex with Tammy Nelson (AASECT certified sex therapist)

• Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman (AASECT certified sex therapist)

• Shameless Sex (sex educator and coach)

• Sex Out Loud with Tristan Taormino

ETHICAL PORN:

• erikalust.com

VIDEO LESSONS ON EROTIC TOUCH:

• orgasmicyoga.com

• Guided meditation to help with relaxation prior to being sensual/sexual:

• Educational video by two of my mentors, Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Harel of the Somatica Institute on how to talk dirty

• The Atlas of Erotic Anatomy and Arousal- paid educational video series by Cyndi Darnell

• Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski

• Women's Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston 

• Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire by Lori Brotto

• The Return of Desire: A Guide to Rediscovering Your Sexual Passion by Gina Ogden

• Orgasm Unleashed by Eyal Matsliah

• I Love Orgasm by Dorion Solot + Marshall Miller

• Layla Martin

• Podcast with Susanne Roursgaard, founder of the Gaia Method

• Self Cervix

• The Gaia Method

• Vaginal Dearmoring

• Podcast with Olivia Bryant, founder of selfcervix,com on awakening pleasure in the cervix

• G-Spot Play

• Fun and educational video on female orgasms

• Breast play techniques

• Self-yoni massage

• Women Who Run with the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes

• The New Male Sexuality by Bernie Zilbergeld

• Cockfidence by Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Harel

• Coping with Erectile Dysfunction by Barry McCarthy

• Multi-Orgasmic Lover for Men Course

• Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure by David Ley

• Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon

• The Whole Lesbian Sex Book by Felice Newman

• Tantric Sex for Women: A Guide for Lesbian, Bi, Hetero, and Solo Lovers by Christina Schulte

• The Joy of Gay Sex by Charles Silverstein and Felice Picano

• wpath

• Queer Sex: A Trans and Non-binary Guide to Intimacy, Pleasure + Relationships by Juno Roche

• Trans Sex by Lucie Fielding

• Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire by Lisa M. Diamond

• ACE by Angela Chen

• Every Body Book by Rachel E. Simon

• Let's Talk About It: The Teen's Guide to Sex, Relationships, and Being a Human (A Graphic Novel) by Erika Moen and Matthew Nolan

• Educational comics about sexuality

• Girls and Sex by Peggy Orenstein

• Wait, What? A comic book guide to relationships, Bodies, and Growing Up Heather Corinna and Isabella Rotman

• Lots of animated videos  (includes info on puberty as well)

• scarleteen.com 

• Dating and Sex: A Guide for the 21st Century Teen Boy by Andrew P. Smiler

• The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino

• The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy

• The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy

• Tantric Orgasm for Women by Diana Richardson

• Urban Tantra by Barbara Carellas

• Tantric Sex for Women: A Guide to Lesbian, Bi, Hetero and Solo Lovers

• Healing Sex by Staci Haines

• The Sexual Healing Journey by Wendy Maltz 

• Life, Reinvented: A Guide to Healing from Sexual Trauma for Survivors and Loved Ones by Erin Carpenter

• With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships by August McLaughlin + Jamila Dawson

• Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Tina Sellers

• Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas

“So even if the hot loneliness is there, and for 1.6 seconds we sit with that restlessness when yesterday we couldn't sit for even one, that's the journey of the warrior." -Pema Chodron

• Guided mindfulness meditation with Tara Brach

• Simple Habit App

• Self compassion practices