Sex Therapy

I support couples from all backgrounds, genders, orientations, neurotypes, lifestyles and relationship structures create pleasurable, connected sex lives by talking in specificity about what’s working and not regarding their sex life.

I create a judgement-free, sex-positive, kink, queer and poly-affirming space for partners to be honest and real with each other about their desires, turn-ons, turn-offs and boundaries.

I pay close attention to any sense of pressure or coercion (whether or not intended) between partners about their sex life and address that head-on.

I ask the right questions to help partners talk in depth and specificity about their feelings, needs and desires so as to get to the bottom of their difficulties around sex.

I offer a trauma-informed approach — being mindful of people’s histories, sensitivities and the rise of anxiety in session— ensuring that partner’s stay within their “window of tolerance” - rather than getting overwhelmed or dysregulated.

I help partners with sexual trauma navigate their triggers around sex and co-create a space where they can feel safe and supported.

I assist partners in constructively discussing any “negative” feelings they have toward each other about past interactions, ruptures, betrayals etc. that may be getting in the way of being physically (and emotionally) intimate with one another.

I work in the moment with anything I see a partner say or do that I perceive is getting in the way of a secure-functioning, sexually connected relationship and the couple’s goals for therapy.

I collaborate with couples in creating sex therapy “home-play”— exercises and rituals to practice at home to deepen the work we’re doing in session and provide a hands-on, experiential way to learn about themselves and their blocks around sex and intimacy.

I fill in gaps of knowledge around sex education with the most up-to-date information about topics like arousal and physiology and make specific suggestions for additional resources (videos, books, practitioners etc.) whenever appropriate.

I’m an active, depth-oriented psychodynamic, sex-positive, non-pathologizing sex and relationship therapist that helps clients create lasting, substantive change.

Rather than solely focusing on the symptoms you’re dealing with or simply being a listening ear, we work together, dive deep and create a joint understanding of the internal conflicts at the root of your difficulties with sex and/or relationships. .

I provide a safe space and listen closely to help you clarify your feelings, desires and values as it pertains to sex and relationships.

I help you explore what behaviors and emotional positions are getting in the way of your stated goals. We work together on those internal barriers so that you can make positive changes in your life.

Where appropriate, I help you craft a vision of sexual health that is your own and hold you accountable in a judgment-free way.

I help you pay close attention to your anxiety in the moment, how you deal with it and how it connects with the sexual and/or relational symptoms you’re looking for help with. I make sure you stay within your “window of tolerance” and don’t remain in a place of dysregulation or overwhelm.

We look not only at what you’re conscious of, but the unconscious beliefs, feelings, anxiety and behaviors that inadvertently create outcomes in your life you don’t want.

I work experientially and relationally to understand what is playing out in the therapeutic relationship that may connect to the issues you’re dealing with in your life. In that sense, I create invitations to use our relationship as a laboratory for you to get to know yourself at a deeper level.

Where appropriate, I point you to whatever additional resources (practitioners, books, sex ed resources etc.) that might be useful.

Depending on the issue(s) at play and what we discover to be the root of those issues, I may suggest sex therapy exercises to practice at home.